As I reflect on yesterday’s graduation ceremonies, my thoughts keep floating back to my husband, Gart. He is a career educator, twenty-six years now. His path began with band directing and moved through various levels of administration. Because of this, our kids’ educational experiences included “Dad as principal.”
What is it like when your dad is the principal? I’m sure my kids would have things to add, but today I’ll share my perspective.
When the kids were younger, elementary and junior high age, it meant riding the bus to his school in the afternoons. It meant exploring every inch of his building. It meant finding all the secret hiding places while staying out of trouble.
As they got older, the meaning changed. The following questions should help paint the picture.
- Do I need to spend the day with you at your school?
- Do I need to contact your teacher?
- Exactly why have you not turned in your assignments this week?
Those questions and the conversations which followed carried a heavier weight than their earlier building adventures. They were only matched by statements like these:
- I received a call/email today from your principal/teacher.
- I contacted your teacher today, and you will be…
- Due to your choices, you will not be able to…
Thankfully, these did not happen often. But when they did, they were not taken lightly. There were some difficult, uncomfortable conversations around the dinner table. But we all survived and are stronger because of them.
Experiencing their dad as principal also meant wisdom and guidance in planning for the future. He witnessed the impact poor choices can have on a student’s future many times. And although he was always ready to share advice or answer questions, he encouraged them to choose their own path.
“Just do you,” he still loves to tell them. ❤
There is no question as to the best part of “dad as principal.” When each of them completed high school and walked across that graduation stage, Dad was waiting there to greet them. He stood with open arms, ready to hand them their diploma, and say, “Congratulations! I’m so proud of you!” And just as quickly, he watched them walk away.
Of course, Gart is much more than “principal” to our three kids. But the impact that title had on our family will be felt for years to come. It helped shape the three of them into amazing young adults.
Each of our children has their own goals and aspirations. Each shows the determination to see them fulfilled. Most importantly, each of them loves their dad. And from my perspective, that’s what happens when your dad is the principal.